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Rev. Barbara Rogoski created the Gay and Lesbian Wedding Ceremony Guide to help you to have all the information you need in one place – to organize the wedding ceremony with templates and guidelines and advise to help you put it together. As a minister who performs wedding ceremonies,  I know the importance of choosing the right celebrant, the right readings, the right people to read them and all things around the ceremony.

I also encourage the couple to spend time to be sure that all important issues are discussed and clear between them before they get married. That is why I have created the PRE-MARRIAGE COUNSELING PROGRAM FOR SAME SEX COUPLES. Along with my 30 questions for self reflection inlcuded in the ebook, we will look at all the important issued together. This will not ensure 100% that the couple will stay together forever, but it really covers all important life issues that the couple will face – without any surprises or “deal breaker” issues that were not taken care of before the wedding.

If laws change, and more US states allow same sex marriage, many more same sex couples will be able to legally marry and enjoy all the advantages that will provide. This guide and counseling will help you to prepare well for your marriage and commitment.

So check out the free download, purchase the ebook and sign up for our Pre-Marriage Counseling Program for Same Sex Couples Program here :



The first time a man puts on a dress he looks like – a man in a dress. In our minds we picture ourselves as dainty, feminine and gorgeous, but we’re actually a man caught wearing girl’s clothes. Looking good as a woman is a hard thing to do – just ask any lady who has spent an hour doing her hair and makeup!

If you’re just looking for some quick tips on what to wear the first time you cross dress then my previous article is the right place for you to start. If you want to look fabulous, and pass as a genetic woman – then read on and also get your “Male-to-female Cross Dressing Guide” here :

There are seven aspects to looking great and passing as a genetic woman every time:

  1. Wearing clothes that make you look good
  2. Making sure your curves are in the right places
  3. Feminine body movement
  4. Hairstyle that feminizes your face
  5. Natural makeup
  6. A feminine voice
  7. Loving who you are as a woman

Do we want to look like men wearing dresses?

NO! If you’re like me, the image you hold of yourself is as a beautiful movie star, not a guy in drag. The truth is that we can all look and feel beautiful – but it takes some work.

Learn how to crossdress

If you’re eager to look fabulous today, I highly recommend the Male-to-female Cross Dressing Guide. You’ll get all the tips and tricks you need to be the woman you are, and complete your male to female transformation!

Before we get started though, I want to share with you the biggest mistake men make when they wear woman’s clothes. This is probably the number one reason why cross dressers fail to pass, and end up looking like a guy in drag instead of a passable woman.

Before I share it with you, think for a moment on how you picture yourself as a woman. Let me guess, high heels, short skirt, dramatic makeup and plunging neck line. Am I right?

The biggest mistake the transgendered make is that:

When men cross dress they try to look like a whore

Not many woman would be caught dead wearing 6″ heels and a mini-skirt that barely covers their panties. Yet cross dressers try to dress like this – they’re dressing as their own fantasy girl. Take a tip from genetic woman – most of the time they are dressing for their girl friend, or to impress other woman. They are trying to out do other woman, not fulfill a man’s sexual fantasy.

Even if you’re lucky enough to have all the other attributes of a woman, if you dress like a whore you will stand out.

Until then, good luck – and look gorgeous!


The Story of/by Marial Alvarez
Growing up as a Hispanic female with a Dominican background, I learned early in life that there are two elements that matters in your everyday choice and decision: tradition and society.Today, at 25, I choose to live my life the way I want to live it.

My life, and certain events that occurred, involving being molested as a child until the age of 14, to living in a closet, and not being able to be myself, because it’s not “accepted” in our society, has brought me to be who I am today.

After spending years helping others with the same type of situation as mine, I realized that I was helping everyone else but myself. I was responsible for healing many, but unfortunately, I myself had not admitted that I had not healed… because I never spoke up.

It’s sad that so many people concern themselves about protecting their children from strangers, not realizing that your own blood can be your worst nightmare.

As a child, I was raised in a disciplined household. I was not able to go anywhere where my parents were not present. I was not even allowed to join after-school programs or activities. My mother tried to protect me from the world. Little did she know that I was being hurt and violated in our own home.

It all started at the age of five, when my uncle first kissed me in a very un-appropriate fashion. Then my older brother, for years, used to sneak into my room at night and have his way with me; and after that, my father, then my cousin.

My cousin molested me at the age of 8. It could’ve turned ugly, but I told him if he did not let me go, I was going to scream out for help, so he let go. But he came back years later, when I was 14, trying to touch me inappropriately, and at that moment, when I got the courage for the first time in my life, I grabbed his hand, and told him “if you touch me one more time, I will chop off your hand! Im not eight (8) years old anymore!”

My cousin ended up moving away the next day. Then shortly after that, I asked my mother to buy me a lock for my door. Once I started locking my room at night, thats when it all stopped.

Not going into detail, my life has not been easy. I had never told anyone, living in silence about this taboo. The day I decided to speak up was one time my father molested one of my female cousins. I ran to my mother, and told her what had happened; her response was “quiet, if you tell anyone about this, we are going to have problems.” At the time, and at my age, I was not sure what else I was able to do.

If my mother was not willing to help, why would anyone else?

At the age of 12, the same cousin that was molested by my father was also molested by my older brother. I realized too late that if I had spoken up, or reached out for help at the time, I could’ve saved her and maybe put a stop to the abuse and violation. I could’ve stopped this from happening. I blamed myself for years. I even contemplated suicide so many times because of the life I was forced to live.

My life started changing when I started opening up to others. Telling my story and not being afraid of the outcome, made others open up to me as well. I soon realized I was not the only one going through this. The main thing that I noticed was that everyone that I spoke to had one thing in common… that none of them had talked about their situations, or reached out for help.

The fact that I could’ve stopped it made me realize, that if I tell my story, I still can! That is the main purpose of my video… to tell my story, to show that I am no longer afraid to be me… There is much more detail to my life, but to survive in it, to heal, other than my family, there is just three (3) things that I need:

The courage to speak up, The willingness to be myself, And the belief that I can make a difference….